It is okay if you aren't at this point yet. It would be no surprise if you aren't. It takes some time to get to this point, and lots of hours alone discovering what you love. Which I was able to do because I was a loner.
But you have to understand that as an outcast, you're automatically way cooler than everyone else. The things that you like are obviously worth something to you. You have something very important and magical for it, my friend. One word: passion. Another word: substance.
Passion and substance are what make you different. Well maybe that's not what you really have. Or what you really want, because you want to fit in so badly. But I can tell you that most likely, the reason why you are pushed away is because of the unique gifts you were given since the day you were born that were just waiting to be discovered. Let's think back to elementary school or middle school. Why were you pushed away? Because you weren't similar enough to other people. Why? Because you like different things than them. Well, why didn't they appreciate what you have? Because they like different things and care about different things and are different kinds of people. Or, maybe because.. they're just too blind to see it. And something else.
Well, what are they like? Why do they push away other kids and not at least try to be friendly?
Think about if there was an environment where it happened to be the other way around. What if band, anime, punk, classical music, etc. were actually... cool?
Well hey, does it all have to do with that, though? Really? What if there is something else getting in the way of social ladders not being a thing.
It's superiority complexes.
In high school, the types of kids who make it to the top have a tendency to feel like just because they are themselves, they are automatically better than the nerds. Well who said that was fair? Just because... that seems to be the reason for everything that popular kids do and believe and act out. They are full of themselves, as a whole. I'm not sugarcoating anything. They think that their hobbies are better. And just because they act like they are better somehow means that is true. And because they have a confident, outward, extroverted, and sometimes pushy personality, they create control and power over other people. But this isn't right, even though it happens.
The nerds may tend to be dominated by these groups. It partially has to do with a type of personality. A kid who is more quiet and nice and likes to keep to themselves will not want to trample over people, to make them seem less worthy than themselves. They have more consideration. Their ego isn't blown out of proportion.
Here's the catch: the nerds could very well have been just as "cool" as the popular kids. It could have been swapped! But that's not how it goes. Because usually the nerds aren't the types to put themselves above others.
These two species of "populars" and "nerds" like different things and so on... but if you think about it the whole social ladder thing wouldn't exist without a blown up ego. The nerds would have dominated if that's a characteristic that defined them.
So my point here is, be proud that you aren't a snob. And that you're too nice to want to hurt other people's feelings. Because that is what the cool kids do. They put themselves above, and think that it's okay. But the nerds did nothing to deserve it and they keep to themselves because that's how they are. Be proud that you don't have to put others down to be yourself. Because it's just a matter of that. Being the high school definition of cool is not defined by your personality at all, or your hobbies. It's defined by 1) what society says is cool and how well you can mold into that definition and 2) a sense of superiority and dominance.
And this dominance is accompanied by: superficiality.
Everyone turns into robots, who do the same thing and act the same way being superficial and feeling like they are better than other people. Why would you want to be part of that?
But back to the words passion and substance. That is why you exist, my friend. You aren't recognized by those who have a stale and uncreative mind compared to yours. Their minds are focused on 1) their ego and 2) superficial things. That is what defines this group. And what makes you different is that you have something real. And that you are a good person. That you hold onto those beautiful things that make your heart glow. You are too far from fitting in to even have a chance. It's not a bad thing though. It's unfortunate that what they care about is really... nothing too important. Imagine what they are missing out on. It's really a shame.
So the battle continues. You against them, but the power they have is defined by nothing. Nothing at all but their inflated egos, their parents' money, and their obsession with boring trends, social status, party life, and good looks. And what is all that worth? Anything? Really. I mean it. How does this make any sense? I hope that you feel just as weirded out as me, because.. how did it come to this?
So on an end note, I would like to remind you once more about a couple words I previously mentioned: passion and substance. Keep that in mind. You have a glimmer in your eyes about the things you love. About the books you read. About the person you love. About a quote your English teacher said in class. About a beam of light reflecting off of a lake. About your quiet mind on a romantically cloudy evening. Who can take this away from you? Who? They sure can't not as long as you don't try to join the dark side. Although I'm sure if you did it would never work, because you're way too different and unique to belong there.
So remember my friend: stay humble. Because being the opposite leads to the hurt that you and I are going through and have went through. If people were more accepting, then there would be no ladder. If there was no better or worse, then there would be just "different." I think you should take some time to think about what I have wrote, and how it connects to you. Just because you don't follow superficial trends and rules doesn't mean that you are worse than them. I promise. It just means that you have more depth, more passion, something to hold onto. You'll realize this soon enough.
To the misfits, the dreamers, the ones who cry themselves to sleep. To the art kids, the music dorks, the ones who just want to explore the world. The poets, the loners, the ones who always think to themselves:
You're a brilliant diamond blinding those who don't have the right glasses to see your beauty.
Be nerdy, be a dreamer, be cool. Because you are your own cool.
Love,
Julia <3
But you have to understand that as an outcast, you're automatically way cooler than everyone else. The things that you like are obviously worth something to you. You have something very important and magical for it, my friend. One word: passion. Another word: substance.
Passion and substance are what make you different. Well maybe that's not what you really have. Or what you really want, because you want to fit in so badly. But I can tell you that most likely, the reason why you are pushed away is because of the unique gifts you were given since the day you were born that were just waiting to be discovered. Let's think back to elementary school or middle school. Why were you pushed away? Because you weren't similar enough to other people. Why? Because you like different things than them. Well, why didn't they appreciate what you have? Because they like different things and care about different things and are different kinds of people. Or, maybe because.. they're just too blind to see it. And something else.
Well, what are they like? Why do they push away other kids and not at least try to be friendly?
Think about if there was an environment where it happened to be the other way around. What if band, anime, punk, classical music, etc. were actually... cool?
Well hey, does it all have to do with that, though? Really? What if there is something else getting in the way of social ladders not being a thing.
It's superiority complexes.
In high school, the types of kids who make it to the top have a tendency to feel like just because they are themselves, they are automatically better than the nerds. Well who said that was fair? Just because... that seems to be the reason for everything that popular kids do and believe and act out. They are full of themselves, as a whole. I'm not sugarcoating anything. They think that their hobbies are better. And just because they act like they are better somehow means that is true. And because they have a confident, outward, extroverted, and sometimes pushy personality, they create control and power over other people. But this isn't right, even though it happens.
The nerds may tend to be dominated by these groups. It partially has to do with a type of personality. A kid who is more quiet and nice and likes to keep to themselves will not want to trample over people, to make them seem less worthy than themselves. They have more consideration. Their ego isn't blown out of proportion.
Here's the catch: the nerds could very well have been just as "cool" as the popular kids. It could have been swapped! But that's not how it goes. Because usually the nerds aren't the types to put themselves above others.
These two species of "populars" and "nerds" like different things and so on... but if you think about it the whole social ladder thing wouldn't exist without a blown up ego. The nerds would have dominated if that's a characteristic that defined them.
So my point here is, be proud that you aren't a snob. And that you're too nice to want to hurt other people's feelings. Because that is what the cool kids do. They put themselves above, and think that it's okay. But the nerds did nothing to deserve it and they keep to themselves because that's how they are. Be proud that you don't have to put others down to be yourself. Because it's just a matter of that. Being the high school definition of cool is not defined by your personality at all, or your hobbies. It's defined by 1) what society says is cool and how well you can mold into that definition and 2) a sense of superiority and dominance.
And this dominance is accompanied by: superficiality.
Everyone turns into robots, who do the same thing and act the same way being superficial and feeling like they are better than other people. Why would you want to be part of that?
But back to the words passion and substance. That is why you exist, my friend. You aren't recognized by those who have a stale and uncreative mind compared to yours. Their minds are focused on 1) their ego and 2) superficial things. That is what defines this group. And what makes you different is that you have something real. And that you are a good person. That you hold onto those beautiful things that make your heart glow. You are too far from fitting in to even have a chance. It's not a bad thing though. It's unfortunate that what they care about is really... nothing too important. Imagine what they are missing out on. It's really a shame.
So the battle continues. You against them, but the power they have is defined by nothing. Nothing at all but their inflated egos, their parents' money, and their obsession with boring trends, social status, party life, and good looks. And what is all that worth? Anything? Really. I mean it. How does this make any sense? I hope that you feel just as weirded out as me, because.. how did it come to this?
So on an end note, I would like to remind you once more about a couple words I previously mentioned: passion and substance. Keep that in mind. You have a glimmer in your eyes about the things you love. About the books you read. About the person you love. About a quote your English teacher said in class. About a beam of light reflecting off of a lake. About your quiet mind on a romantically cloudy evening. Who can take this away from you? Who? They sure can't not as long as you don't try to join the dark side. Although I'm sure if you did it would never work, because you're way too different and unique to belong there.
So remember my friend: stay humble. Because being the opposite leads to the hurt that you and I are going through and have went through. If people were more accepting, then there would be no ladder. If there was no better or worse, then there would be just "different." I think you should take some time to think about what I have wrote, and how it connects to you. Just because you don't follow superficial trends and rules doesn't mean that you are worse than them. I promise. It just means that you have more depth, more passion, something to hold onto. You'll realize this soon enough.
To the misfits, the dreamers, the ones who cry themselves to sleep. To the art kids, the music dorks, the ones who just want to explore the world. The poets, the loners, the ones who always think to themselves:
You're a brilliant diamond blinding those who don't have the right glasses to see your beauty.
Be nerdy, be a dreamer, be cool. Because you are your own cool.
Love,
Julia <3
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